I grew up in a small village, which had a very mixed population. The nursery, then schools I went to were filled with children of all different colours. The village was full of Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists, Atheists, Jehovah's Witnesses. You name it, we had it. Like myself, a fair proportion of those that were white were of a mixed background.
Throughout my early childhood, skin colour was, to me, just like eye colour and hair colour. It meant nothing, beyond basic physical appearance. Religion, to me, was irrelevant. If some of the children I knew wore religious clothing, well, that was just their clothes. I was aware that they wore such clothing because of their religion but I, well, didn't notice it. It was just there.
Then, one day the school I attended started teaching us about race, and about racism.
Suddenly, when I looked at a group of my friends, some of them stood out as different. Suddenly, I was seeing my friends and seeing the colour of their skin. Suddenly, that meant something. It occurred to me that, with racism having been an acceptable social norm so recently, some of my older living relatives could be racist. Perhaps, some of them may even have done something racist.
All of a sudden I found it hard to be around my friends, those that weren't white, because I felt embarrassed. I kept wanting to apologise for being white, and I was so embarrassed to find out that I was one of the priveleged. (We all had one thing in common- regardless of the reality, in which some of us had parents who were doctors and some had parents who were greengrocers, we all identified very strongly as working class; being better off than your friends was something to be embarrassed about, not proud of, because it was "snotty").
I started analysing my behaviour. Every time I went to talk to one of my friends I would find myself overly aware of my mannerisms, my behaviour. "Am I a racist? Does being white make me a racist? If I act too polite and nicey nicey, will they think I'm playing it up? Will I seem over-eager to be friends with a black person? Will they think I'm racist? Oh no! Does thinking this make me a racist?"
And I resented it. I resented the fact that I had this white guilt thrust upon me. I resented the fact that suddenly I was being forced to see the people I had known since I was so young that I couldn't remember ever not knowing them, as different. As belonging to a different group to me. I wanted to go back to not knowing.
I remember thinking that, since none of us had ever experienced racism, since it didn't happen in this village, that there was no need for us to be taught, for my perfect little bubble to be broken, and I almost thought they had done more harm than good.
It wasn't until somewhat into the onset of puberty, as I became a little more aware of the world beyond my own nose, that I realised just how bigotted and, in fact, priveleged, I was behaving.
I resented having my perfect world changed.
I had assumed that, because I had never seen it, that none of my friends had ever been victims of racism. I had assumed that they had grown up as blissfuly unaware of the horrors of the world as I had, that their parents had acted just as mine had, never even bringing up religion, race or skin colour as a subject, except to point out the similarities between different religions.
I had also assumed that racism was something that didn't exist in the wider world, that it was perpetrated only by a very small number of ignorant people.
I had presumed the right to preserve my own naievity, ignoring the fact that racism still exists, and that we must be educated about it in order to be able to do something about it.
But, even then, I still thought of racism as something that, while still out there, was rare.
Thinking about it, I don't think I even really understood what the term meant.
Then I turned 17 and moved away from my home village, and found myself in a town where the local population, aside from students like myself, was overwhelmingly white.
I found myself socialising with people that seemed perfectly normal, only to later hear them describe a local corner shop by using the P word. People who never met a black person growing up, or knew one black child and made fun of them for "eating too much chocolate" but "it was okay, we were only joking and he ribbed us, too". People who looked down on Romanies and other travellers as dirty, and untrustworthy. Who would, when meeting a black person, discuss the fact that they must be "enjoying this summer heat" a lot more than me, because I'm such a pasty thing with blood from cold countries whilst they, obviously, are "built for the heat".
I met my step-father-in-law who, on the first evening he met me, asked me "I hear that crime rates are pretty high where you come from. There're a lot of Blacks there, aren't there?". I met young children who made jokes about "what poor people eat" and who casually bandied about racial slurs.
I encountered people who, when entering a local corner shop, would start making "dakka dakka dakka" and "bud bud bud" noises and smirking.
And I learned that racism doesn't just continue to exist with great force, but it is still institutionalised. It's just wedged in a tiny bit more sneakily, so that us white people can pretend it isn't there.
Racism is still rife, and it still affects the everyday lives of hundreds of thousands of people in this country, and billions of peopel worldwide. The priveleged people out there need to be watchful, and need to educate their children and do what they can to help wipe it out.
Why? Because the people in this world who have been victims of racism have spent generations striving to live equally and, to be perfectly honest, white people have, for the most part, been sitting on their arses watching it happen. We are the perpetrators of this ignorance through either active participation or wilful neglect.
That "white guilt"? It's there for a reason.
(And yes, I realise that, as a white person blogging about my "oh-so-terrible, poor baby me" experiences of being exposed to racism, that I am again acting like a priveleged little bitch. I want to talk about this issue and help end it. I would welcome any advice anyone can give on ways that I could do this better and, if anyone notices any instance of me being guilty of any of the above, please let me know.)